Ep 191 – 3 Beliefs That Helped Me Change My Marriage
There’s something I know to be true—whether you’re in crisis or just craving more connection in your relationship:
Your beliefs shape your actions.
And your actions shape everything that follows.
When I think about the hundreds of women I’ve worked with (and my own journey), there are three specific beliefs that make the biggest difference when you want things to feel better in your marriage.
They’re not magic. They’re not always easy.
But they are game-changing.
1. You are worthy of something better.
So many of us get stuck because we’re trying to justify our desire for ease, softness, peace, or partnership.
We think:
- It’s not that bad… I should be grateful.
- They’re doing their best… maybe I should just adjust.
- I’m asking for too much…
But here’s the truth I come back to again and again:
You are worthy of taking action on your own behalf.
You are worthy of a marriage that feels good most of the time. Not perfect. But good.
Nourishing. Like a team. Like a space where you can breathe.
That belief alone can spark everything else.
2. Things can actually change.
Even if you’ve tried and it hasn’t worked yet.
Even if you’ve had the same argument on repeat.
Even if your partner isn’t “doing the work” the same way you are.
If you can anchor into the possibility that something might shift—that the version of your relationship you desire could exist—you’ll be more willing to experiment. You’ll open the door to curiosity instead of resignation.
And when you change, the dynamic starts to shift, too.
3. You need to trust your guide.
There are moments when reading books and listening to podcasts helps… and moments when you need more.
That doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re human.
Finding a coach, a therapist, or a trusted support who helps you feel safe enough to grow makes a massive difference.If you resonate with what I teach and how I speak about marriage—you are invited to trust me. If you don’t, trust someone else. But don’t try to do it all alone.
📝 A Practice for When You’re Stuck
If you’re not sure where to begin, here’s one place to start:
Name what you want. Even just to yourself.
That desire you keep pushing down? That flicker of resentment? That quiet wish for more?
It’s not a character flaw.
It’s a message.
Ask:
- What do I want more of?
- Where am I tolerating something that no longer works?
- What’s one tiny action I could take to move toward the marriage I want?
And if that feels hard—know that just asking the question is powerful.
💬 Final Thoughts
Belief doesn’t guarantee a perfect outcome.
But when you believe in your worth, in the possibility of change, and in the power of support—
You take yourself out of survival mode.
You begin to lead.
And from that place?
Anything is possible.
🔗 Ready to Go Deeper?
If these beliefs resonate and you’re wondering where to begin—
Start by downloading the free Move My Marriage Forward Worksheet I created to go with this episode.
It’s a simple tool to help you reflect, clarify what you want, and take your next small but powerful step.
✨ Click here to download it now.
And if you’re ready for more personalized support, private coaching is open.
We take everything I teach on the podcast and apply it to your real life, with care, clarity, and courage
📚 Links & Resources
RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
- The Questions for Couples Journal
- Private Coaching with Maggie
- Move My Marriage Forward Worksheet
- Susan Hyatt’s Bare Book – In this book, Susan Hyatt shares her personal story of weight gain, weight loss, diet hell, body drama, and her journey to health, happiness, and liberation—and how she decided to try the most radical thing of all: treating her body like a friend.
- EPISODE # 13 – Sex in Stressful Times with Danielle Savory
- EPISODE #15 – How to Argue Better with Simone Seol
- Rich Coach Club Podcast Interview – Maintaining A Thriving Business And A Successful Relationship With Maggie Reyes
✨ Transparency Note
This blog post was lovingly crafted with support from my AI writing partner—because even coaches need a strategic thinking buddy! All coaching insights and stories are my own.