We are keeping the blog super short and sweet and simple this week.
First the brilliant John Gottman, founder of the Gottman Institute tells us how to improve our marriage in 30 seconds – well actually 1 minute and 34 seconds, but you get the idea.
In this video he says, one of the greatest keys to a happy marriage is to honor our spouse’s dreams.
Which of course got me to thinking. Always dangerous of course.
When was the last time we shared our dreams with each other?
For the hubs and I it was a couple of weeks ago on the Oasis of the Seas – we took some time to play my favorite game. I call it “The Lottery Game.”
It works like this – you each answer what you would want to do if you won if you won the lottery. BUT instead of keeping it vague, we picked a random number like 10 million dollars. Now my hubby is the numbers whiz in the family and computed the following:
If we won 10 million dollars and lived 50 more years of life, that would be $200k a year.
Tons of money. But not like private jets or anything.
It made the exercise so much more fun for me, because it was somehow more realistic, and because it was more realistic, we really got into it.
And the fascinating thing we found it is, if we suddenly had tons of money, half the things we wanted to do, weren’t really all that expensive.
At least a fourth of the things we “dreamt” about, we could probably afford right now or with a little extra planning and budgeting.
So the key to honoring each other’s dreams is to ASK. That’s step number one.
Can you set aside some time this week to have fun dreaming about experiences and adventures you would love to have together?
I know it sounds so simple, but when is the last time you did?
See.
I know my people. Pick your favorite snack item – chips, veggies, ice cream, smoothies, or an exotic cocktail, whatever floats your boat, and just sit and dream together.
That’s how you get an Awesomized marriage – one dreamy conversation at a time.
Want to create a super soulful plan to make those dreams come true? Join me for a Dream Deeper Session where we zero in on what matters most and make the plan to get there. You can find all the details on the Coaching Page.
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