What is law of attraction love? I say it’s the kind of love that is infused by your knowledge that like attracts like. With that idea as an underlying theme, you can focus on giving yourself and the person you love the type of feelings you want to create.
Love, forgiveness, compassion, excitement. When you practice the law of attraction, you look for ways to create those feelings with your thoughts and actions. You don’t wait for those feelings to come to you.
Lisa Hayes is a master at both the law of attraction and love. Her clients call her the Love Whisperer and I call her my favorite relationship coach besides me! 😉
It’s a pleasure and an honor to have her wisdom and energy on the blog today.
I loved her perspective in this interview and I hope it gives you a glimpse at a mindset that expands the way you look at love and helps you grow.
Here we go!
MM: Tell us about yourself in 5 sentences…
LISA: First and foremost, I am wife and mother. Yes, I said wife before mother because that’s the way it has to be if it’s going to work. Secondly, I’m a Law of Attraction Relationship Coach. And yes, I said Law of Attraction before Relationship, because if it’s going to amazing, you’ve got to create the relationship you want intentionally.
MM: Tell us about your latest project…
LISA: I recently released my second book, Score Your Soulmate. This is a one of a kind by the number guide for attracting your soul mate. However, for anyone who wants to leverage deliberate creation, the Score process can be used to attract just about anything you want to experience or bring into your life.
MM: Why do you do what you do?
LISA: I love coaching because I love helping my clients get the results and experiences they want in their lives. I honestly believe relationships are the most challenging class in this whole life school. Most of us aren’t taught how to be in relationships. Because of that, a lot of people struggle to even have a functional relationship with themselves let alone with anyone else. However, once you learn that you can create and experience the relationships you desire, everything changes. It’s a beautiful thing.
MM: One of my favorite management principles is “Stop, Start, Keep” the idea is that there are things we should stop doing, start doing and keep doing that will make us successful. What should we “stop, start, and keep” to make our relationships stronger?
LISA: Stop outsourcing your self-worth, or feel good. Anytime you let someone else define your worth or make them responsible for your happiness, you’re very vulnerable.
Start taking your self-care very seriously. Self-care equates directly with energy. If you’re running on empty you don’t really have anything to give in any of your relationships. The first relationship that usually suffers from lack of energy is the marriage or primary romantic relationship. Energy is everything. If you don’t have it to invest in your relationship, the relationship gets stale quick.
Keep expecting the best. One of the things new couples have going for them is they tend to expect the best. They expect the best of their partner. They expect the best out of themselves. They are optimistic about the future. That positive expectation has a powerful effect on relationships.
MM: Complete these sentences:
LISA: The key to a happy marriage is: The marriage has to be THE priority. Not a priority. THE priority. Life has a way of throwing a lot of distractions at you. When your marriage starts slipping on the priority list relationship satisfaction starts to diminish. How do you know what a priority is? A priority is something that gets your time, focus, and money. Therefore, if your marriage is your top priority, it should be getting a lot of time, focus, and money.
What I know about true love is: True love in and of itself removes the question of commitment. True love, by its nature, is committed. True love doesn’t ask questions about togetherness in the future because that’s a given. Under the umbrella of true love, all of life’s problems are solved from the place of unshakable togetherness. True love sticks the landing.
The single most important thing we can do for the person we love is: Love them for who they are, not who you want them to be. Radical acceptance is the greatest gift you can give anyone.
The biggest myth about marriage is: Marriage is hard work. A healthy marriage requires a lot of energy. However, it is never hard work. If I marriage is hard work, something is wrong that needs fixing. Thinking a marriage is supposed to be hard work tends to let problems fester in a marriage until those problems are very hard to fix.
I can create a life I love by: Investing my time and focus in things that bring me joy more of the time than I spend time and focus on anything else. Simple? Yes. Easy? No. Worth it? Absolutely.
MM: What was the best piece of advice you ever got? How did you use it?
LISA: My mother told me once, you marry the person who makes you want to be the best version of yourself. That is a relationship that’s always going to inspire you to grow. That is certainly the case for my marriage. Just being with my husband makes me want to be my best for me, him, and us.
However, I’ve used that as a benchmark in the past when I realized I’d become someone in a relationship, that I didn’t like. When I could see that, I knew it was time to move on. No villain or victim, just a knowing that the relationship wasn’t inspiring me to be my best self.
MM: How do you stay connected to your spouse?
LISA: We make time, and we make that time sacred. We committed to being lovers before being parents. I realize that won’t sit well with everyone. However, we believe our relationship is the foundation for our family. The best thing we can do for our kids is having a strong and passionate marriage. That means we make time to talk and connect every day, we do a date night every week, and we get out of town just the two of us quarterly.
MM: What has surprised you most about marriage?
LISA: How easy it is to have a hot sex life after the “honeymoon phase”. You can’t put it on autopilot. A sex life takes energy and attention. However, what I’ve learned is that intimacy trumps “newness” if you invest in it.
Lisa M. Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an Author, Trainer, and Law of Attraction Relationship Coach. Lisa is known for her no-nonsense approach to attracting and growing relationships that really work. Her book, Score Your Soulmate is available now.
SIDE NOTE – The Hubs is the editor of the blog and read this post and *loved* it. If you want to spark a conversation about your relationship with your honey – this might just be a great post to share or print out and discuss. And if you are nervous about having a soulful conversation, read this or this and if you want even more conversation starters, read this.
YOUR POWER ACTION THIS WEEK? Ask your honey what you should START, STOP and KEEP in your relationship. You both get a turn. Remember to listen with love. XO Maggie
