What does it mean to be Wildly Alive? Not just alive, but fully thriving and feeling confident and free?
My friend and coaching colleague Nichole Wurth is the founder of Wildly Alive and she believes, “more than anything else, that your body is your strongest ally, your wisest friend, and your deepest spiritual teacher… And by listening to it and loving it unconditionally you’ll never feel deep struggle again.”
I am SO EXCITED to share her interview with you today!
Tell us about yourself in 5 sentences…
I want to live in a world where women see their bodies as their soul sister, food as their wingman and dancing as their bestie.
Why? Because when a woman is deeply connected to her body while enjoying the hell out of every moment she begins to create the life and body she’s always wanted.
I know this to be true because it’s happened to me after YEARS of physical and verbal abuse to my own body. This is my mission women deserve to be freed from this struggle that’s keeping them from going BIG in their life.
Tell us about your latest project…
The free Wildly Alive Challenge! I’m so excited about this. This will show women exactly how to create a life that’s so kick ass they won’t crave the cookies anymore 🙂
Why do you do what you do?
Because I’ve had my own body/life struggles (feeling deeply unhappy and stuck) and found the answer BY ACCIDENT! Pssst, it wasn’t by following any plan it was actually the opposite — by LIVING LIFE!
One of my favorite management principles is “Stop, Start, Keep” the idea is that there are things we should stop doing, start doing and keep doing that will make us successful. What should we “stop, start, and keep” to make our relationships stronger?
STOP: (or releasing) expectations … people are really doing the best they can with the “tools” they have.
START: Doing forgiveness work (or more). It’s a daily thing.
KEEP: Communicating and expressing your feelings (this will also keep you from running to the kitchen for comfort)
The secret to a happy marriage is…
communication, it’s not revolutionary but my marriage is strong because we both aren’t willing to hold things in. Sometimes it gets heated but we’re always trying to move towards the solution.
What I know is true about love is…
It’s worth fighting for 🙂
The single most important thing we can do for the person we love is…
Listen to what they need to thrive in the relationship. If you don’t know — ask them!
The biggest myth about marriage is…
That all married people are unhappy. At one point in my life I didn’t want to get married because all the married peeps around me were miserable. I wished for something greater, and got it 🙂
I can create a life I love by…
Loving myself as deeply as you wish someone else would.
What is your favorite inspirational quote about love or marriage?
Be The Change You Wish To See In The World – Gandhi it’s my favorite quote and can be directed towards marriage. If you want your partner to change BE the change first before you start nagging.
What is the best piece of advice you ever got? How did you use it?
You have everything within you to thrive. I once thought I needed my dad to tell me I was good enough, my mom to comfort me when I was sad, and a man to tell me I’m beautiful. It wasn’t until a coach told me, “You don’t need anything to thrive. If you want validation give it to yourself! If you want comfort give yourself a loving hug, and if you want love send yourself love as often as you can!”
What’s the best advice you like to give? How do you apply it (for yourself)?
I’d say the advice above. It changed everything. ALL my relationships changed. The tension between me and my parents and husband was practically gone because I could fill my own needs. I released the expectation of them giving me what I thought I needed from them.
What do you know is true about love?
It’s why we’re all here 🙂
What is your favorite thing about being married?
The way we grow together. It’s not always easy but seeing how far we came is incredible.
What has surprised you the most about marriage?
That I once questioned it and if anyone married was really happy.
How do you stay connected to your spouse?
Kids have made it hard but we try to connect, even for just 5 minutes before bed and ask “how are you doing?” Not work. Not calendar stuff. Emotionally.
We talk a lot on this blog about re-defining marriage – can you share something you and your spouse do that makes sense for you (but may not make sense to someone else)?
Playing. My husband is super playful and I can be super uptight so when I’m grumpy he usually tackles me and sits on top of me until I start laughing and break the grumpiness.
What is the most surprising thing you have discovered through your work?
That your relationship with your body effects EVERYTHING. I mean, I knew it was important but wow. It’s much deeper than I first thought.
Anything else you would like to add?
It’s basically impossible for someone else to love you deeper than you love yourself. So…you gotta love YOURSELF as deeply as you want your husband to love you. If he ends up getting there or not YOU deserve that deep of love.
Nichole Wurth helps you create a life that’s so kick-ass you don’t crave the cookies! A life where you see your body as your soul sister, food as your wingman and dancing as your bestie… Because when a woman is deeply connected to her body while enjoying the hell out of every moment she begins to create the life and body she’s always wanted. She knows this to be true because it’s happened to her and thousands of her clients.
When she’s not fearlessly (but lovingly) pushing her clients into a life they dream of, you can find her laughing with friends, connecting with nature and loving up on her hubby, her son Wyatt and her two dogs. Are you ready to start creating your version of a kick-ass life? Sweet — Join the free Wildly Alive Challenge
