Lack of joy in your life is not just important. It doesn’t just matter at little.
IT IS AN EMERGENCY.
I spoke with a woman recently who hasn’t felt JOY in her life or her marriage FOR YEARS.
I actually speak with women who are struggling to feel joy regularly. It both makes me sad and fires me up to share more and coach more and lead more because it’s so important.
I have a client right now who is the kindest most generous most loving soul you have ever met.
And she feels pain on a regular basis. Physical pain. All the time. Like it’s normal to live life that way.
We are working on that. Coaching homework has been assigned and Pain Management Protocols have been engaged.
We cannot possibly create our maximum self expression of joy if we are in constant un-treated pain.
Whether it’s physical pain or emotional pain. We need to get to the root cause and figure that pain out so we can get to joy.
Joy matters.
Joy gives our life purpose and meaning and delight not to mention it helps us manage stress, decrease decay in our body and keep our cells happy and healthy so we live longer and stronger while we are alive.
JOY is a feeling of great pleasure and happiness.
EMERGENCY is a serious, unexpected, and often dangerous situation requiring immediate action.
The absence of JOY is an EMERGENCY. It requires immediate action.
I don’t know what puritanical mindset has been passed through the cells of our generation of modern urban women that makes us think that pleasure is something OPTIONAL that we take care of when everything else is done.
Our brains come equipped with Pleasure Centers. That’s an organ in our body that is designed to process pleasure. Our bodies and minds are literally MADE for pleasure.
Not excessive pleasure. Not toxic pleasure.
Actual, positive pleasure that nourishes our heart and feels good in our body and generates the feeling of JOY in our body.
Why is it that if someone has a child who needs braces, we move heaven and earth to figure out how to make that happen and re-distribute our entire budget so TEETH CAN BE STRAIGHT.
And yet, when someone is –
Permanently stressed
Suffering in their marriage
Hasn’t experienced joy in YEARS
Isn’t enjoying sex (if they are having it at all)
Is in constant emotional pain
Why is it that when that is happening – we as a society have no idea how to handle it?
How to budget for it? Invest our time in solving those issues and our attention in getting to a solution?
My clients figure it out. This is how they become my clients.
They decide their JOY being straight is more important THAN EVERYTHING ELSE.
They PRIORITIZE THEIR JOY
And guess what happens?
THEY FEEL MORE JOY
They connect more deeply with their partner
They start finding ways to make sex fun again
And they start figuring out what is causing their emotional pain – often linked to the thoughts they are thinking on a regular basis…and we look at those, question those thoughts and choose new ones day after day until we find more joy, more freedom and more maximum self expression.
Seeing my coaching clients thrive and seeing them prioritize joy made me wonder,
WHY doesn’t EVERYONE do that?
Why is it that we live in a Society where JOY is not considered an emergency?
I really want to know.
Because I think we got it wrong.
The earth is not flat.
The mile can be run in 4 minutes.
Seat belts save lives. (Did you know there was a time when cars had no seat belts?)
JOY IS AN EMERGENCY. (I want to look back one day and say, Did you know there was a time people didn’t think having joy was important and NOT having it is an emergency?)
Okay, end of rant.
Here is what I want you to do now, I want you to ask yourself
Am I prioritizing JOY?
Why or why not?
Do I think my reasons are good and valid or should they be questioned?
Answering this question will change your life.
Yes. Really.
If you are prioritizing joy already, you will know you are on the right track.
If you aren’t, this will be the day that from this day forward, you KNOW you are making a CHOICE and you can make a new one.
What will you choose?
