EPISODE #23 – Marriage Trigger Management 101
We’re going to talk about triggers in this episode. These are the things in your marriage that just seem to rub you the wrong way. You will learn how to handle them so they don’t knock you off of your center. This way, you can stay powerful and resourceful, no matter what is going on around you.
When you have that unsettled feeling that leads to arguments and moments of disconnection, it often triggers the fight, flight, freeze, or appease response. We always want to solve it and hash it out in the moment, but this is the worst possible time to problem solve.
Of course we can’t solve every trigger in one podcast episode, but listen for the one thing that you’re going to take away and experiment with in your own marriage. I know you will leave this episode with concrete and actionable ways to address your triggers.
HIGHLIGHTS
• (4:00) A tip I give my private clients around arguments or conflicts
• (5:24) The Pause and Breathe Method
• (8:20) What actually makes our problems painful
• (10:38) Why a conversation that starts with blame always ends wrong
• (13:05) One of the best ways to prevent and manage a trigger
• (16:00) The role of acceptance in arguments
• (19:18) How asking a better question helps manage a trigger
• (21:35) Using arguments in a positive way
• (23:31) Your homework after listening to this episode
TRANSCRIPT
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