EPISODE #28 - How to Calm Down When you are Triggered in your Marriage with Dr. Chavonne Perotte

EPISODE #28 – How to Calm Down When you are Triggered in your Marriage with Dr. Chavonne Perotte

I am so excited to have Dr. Chavonne Perotte, a fellow marriage coach, back on the podcast with me today.

Chavonne has a PhD from John Hopkins University and is a trained researcher specializing in communication within intimate partnerships. She uses her knowledge and experience in research to develop new tools and processes to inspire and empower couples to love being married again (and you know we’re all about that on this show!). Chavonne is also the host of the Love Marriage Again podcast.

Today, we’re going to hear about her Calm Down Method, a tool she created for couples to use when they are feeling triggered in their marriage. I know you’re going to learn a lot from her and some tips on how to handle those tough situations in your relationship.

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HIGHLIGHTS

• (2:14) Chavonne’s Calm Down Method: What it is and when/how to use it

• (6:40) Consider the Consequences: The impact of negative reactions

• (9:45) Assess the Importance: A question to ask in those tense moments

• (12:34) Lead with Love: Considering the most loving thing you can do

• (14:46) Make the Best of It: A new way to view hard situations

• (17:23) Decide from the Future: Utilizing your vision within triggered moments

• (21:56) Owning Your Part: The shift you need to make in your mind

• (24:56) Win the Right Fight: The part you have full control over

• (39:52) Nip it in the Bud: How this step helps you redefine problems

TRANSCRIPT

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