Anger is a symptom.
Anger is a form of pain that tells you – LOOK AT THIS. THIS NEEDS HEALING.
So many of us shy away from anger. We don’t want to look at it.
We fear that if we really feel it fully, we might have to make decisions we don’t want to make.
So we ignore it. And you know what happens?
It only gets bigger.
It’s like an infection of your loving operating system – if you don’t treat it, it spreads.
If you are angry at your husband, first I want you to know, it is okay to get angry.
Anger happens.
It is NOT okay to ignore the anger. That won’t help you or him.
So I want you to know, just like treating an infection so it doesn’t spread, the way to deal with anger is to meet it head on – find out the size and shape and location – and then treat it.
How do you “treat” anger?
It depends.
Honestly, I wish I had a simple answer but I don’t.
Sometimes you treat it with forgiveness, other times with speaking your truth.
Sometimes anger is pointing you to something deeper, where you need to sit with it for a bit to get to the root cause of why it’s there.
And sometimes, there are moments when the best thing to do after you let yourself fully feel it is to just accept it.
You might never fully resolve the original thing that made you angry – but you can decide it will rob your peace no more.
When that happens, understanding how to practice acceptance comes in very handy.
What you gain when you practice acceptance is mental space to create what you want – in your marriage and in your life.
If you are not sure how to process your anger, you can’t go wrong by starting to practice acceptance and see where that leads you.
How do you practice acceptance?
Stop criticizing yourself.
Stop criticizing your husband.
Forgive yourself.
Forgive your husband.
THERE IS A LOT MORE TO THIS that I go in depth with in my coaching programs :-).
If you want to solve your relationship issues once and for all, book a call with me here: http://modernmarried.com/coaching/
In the meantime, I did a Facebook Live in The Modern Married Wife Group where I spoke in depth about the following points –
• Acceptance = not arguing with reality.
• What you gain when you can accept is mental space to create what you want.
• Acceptance is conscious awareness not denial.
• The difference between acceptance and agreement.
• Why any act of criticism is an act of violence
If you are a member, you can click here and watch it
If you aren’t already a member, you can click here to request to join the Facebook Group.
To making peace with anger.
