I was speaking with a client this week who doesn’t love the gifts her husband buys her.
And because of that there is so much disappointment whenever gift giving time rolls around.
And I want to share with you today what I shared with her:
Decide if you will prioritize surprise or satisfaction.
Read that again, slowly.
Decide if you will prioritize surprise or satisfaction.
We always get to choose what we prioritize in life. When it comes to giving and receiving gifts I see so many people prioritize surprise over satisfaction only to be endlessly disappointed with the gifts they receive.
I want to remind you that you can make new decisions about what you want and who you want to be anytime in your relationship including right now.
Watch the video I did in my Facebook Group, The Modern Married Wife, to learn how we give gifts in my marriage from a bracelet from Tiffany’s to a new tablet – we have a very high satisfaction rate…but we forgo surprises.
I shared this with my BFF and she shared her brilliant way she handles this in her marriage. She gives her husband at least 3 options of things she likes and would LOVE to receive and he picks one of them so she gets satisfaction AND and an element of surprise mixed in! I love that!
Here is your challenge this holiday season – DECIDE – what will you prioritize – surprise or satisfaction?
Or tweak it like my bestie did and have a bit of both. Make a conscious decision around how you want to give gifts and what you want to do about any past disappointments about gifts you have received.
Here are some of the resources I mention in the video:
“What am I making it mean?” is one of my favorite power questions. Learn the other 4 and how to use them to make your marriage better in this free download: The 5 Power Questions Every Woman Should Know to Improve her Marriage Today
Decision is one of the 5 Shifts I mention in my Better Marriage Masterclass, it is the mother of all changes and improvements in your life and marriage and it’s important to remember we can always make a new choice. You can register for the replay and watch on any device.
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