You can make tiny tweaks every day in your marriage that have a big impact in the amount of love you are experiencing.
The most important thing you need to know right now is that you do not need your partner to do it with you for you to start feeling better about your relationship. You take the first step and put some positive action into your marriage and your partner will respond to your new upgraded approach – often in surprising and also upgraded ways.
My favorite example this came before I was a Life Coach. One of my very best friends was complaining about her hubby and in the middle of a rant, I asked her, “when was the last time you thanked him for something?”
She couldn’t remember.
She could not remember the last time she expressed that kind of love (because gratitude is love, am I right?) to the person she loves most in the world.
So of course I challenged her to thank him every day for a week. Two weeks later she called me freaking out. He had stopped at Starbucks and gotten her favorite Iced Coffee, just because.
She said he hadn’t stopped and gotten her coffee in 5 years. FIVE YEARS PEOPLE.
What happened? She started thanking him. He started feeling appreciated. She thanked him more, he started doing things to re-create that feeling and so it went.
When my friend DECIDED that she wanted to shift in her marriage and DECIDED to take loving actions… that’s when things shifted. So let’s just spend today deciding what’s true for you.
Now nobody knows exactly how your partner will react when you start practicing the principles of upgrading the love in your life. But we do know how your partner will react if you don’t.
Disconnection, Disillusion, Distraction – the triple D of relationship Death. So, my perspective is, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain by planting more seeds of love in the world.
DECIDE today to make a small tweak with a big impact – something like just saying thank you on a regular basis can transform your relationship in ways you can’t even imagine.
If you know you want to make tiny tweaks that last, download one of my favorite coaching Power Tools – The Five Power Questions Every Woman Should Know to Improve her Marriage Today.
