Every marriage and every life needs a mix of variety and safety in order to thrive. We are constantly in this dance between new experiences and the mental comfort of our internal and external routines.
What is an internal routine? The thoughts we think over and over again that either limit us or liberate us.
One of the places we often get stuck is when making decisions or in AVOIDING making a decision, postponing a decision, or the worst nemesis of all – vacillating. Moving back and forth between options in a constant state of evaluating without actually choosing one thing or the other.
Wherever you feel stuck in life, I promise you, if you look a little deeper at that stuckness, you will find an UNMADE DECISION.
As I say often, don’t believe me, try it. Think right now about the thing that has pained you the most over the last few months, look as deeply as you can at it and somewhere underneath it all, there is a decision waiting to be made – or several.
I get stuck too. I didn’t come up with this theoretically. Every time I have ever felt stuck in my own life – there it was – a decision I wasn’t making that needed to be made.
This is why today, I invite you to take this into your heart: IT IS SAFE FOR ME TO DECIDE.
A clear yes. A clear no.
I am a huge super-hero fan and one of my favorite lines from my favorite show is a moment when one character tells another, “stop dangling maybes.”
That one hit me HARD. I wrote a whole article about it. You can find that here.
Where are you dangling a maybe in your life?
What if it was safe for you to DECIDE?
