Have you ever tried to make a change in your relationship and you are doing good for a while and then you slip back into your old pattern in a situation? And then you get frustrated and feel like the effort you’ve made all along was in vain?
Here is what I tell my private coaching clients around this –
When we see a toddler learning to walk, and they fall down, we don’t walk up to them and say,
“Well I guess there will be no walking for you. You will just have to crawl everywhere for the rest of your life.”
That sounds crazy doesn’t it?
We know that the process of learning to walk requires falling, we expect it, plan for it and it never stops us.
Of course we will walk. That is a given and we will keep trying until we stand up.
Then we become adults, get emotional amnesia and forget this and beat ourselves up every time we try something new and aren’t perfect at it the first time.
When what we need to do is remember, we are learning, falling is normal, we are making progress.
Keep going until you are able to stand up in the new thing.
And when you forget, remember how ridiculous it sounds to say, no walking for you!
And remember that what you are learning to do is simply walk in a whole new way. ❤️
Is there a place in your life where you are learning to walk? Do you need to give yourself some grace while you figure out how to balance and stand up in it without falling?
Can you imagine telling a toddler, you are doing it wrong, stop that? No of course not.
We would both look at the toddler and say ohhhhhhh soooooo GOOOOOD KEEP GOING and clap and smile and make googlie happy faces for every attempt.
Can you give yourself a googlie happy face today?
