Is there good forgiving and bad forgiving? Is there a difference between forgiveness that comes from the depth of your soul and ALLOWING something that doesn’t match your values?
If you are too quick to forgive you might have pourous boundaries, un clear spaces in your heart where you are making decisions from fear.
If you are constantly faced with “unforgivable” situations why is that? If you are slow to forgive its worth looking at the why underneath.
When we forgive that just means we don’t try to collect the emotional debt anymore. It could be that we set a boundary or say no to something or make a decision about what is OK and not OK for us.
It doesn’t mean whatever happened was ok it just is no longer in charge of how we feel.
The Situation is not in charge of how we feel. Ever. But when we are stuck in unresolved Resentment we are giving our power to the situation instead of taking our power, owning it and deciding how to proceed from a clean and powerful place.
Processing hurt can take time for sure and it can take a variety of approaches before we find our way with the situation.
This is why sometimes you can DIY IT and sometimes you need a LIFE COACH.
The thing about resentment isn’t just how it destroys the connection with the other person. It also takes the place of the love you could be cultivating. The thriving that isn’t happening.
Resentment is like taking all the money out of your emotional bank account and then going into even more debt without figuring out how to make more deposits.
Forgiveness = the beginning of deposits
Boundaries =compound interest aka the emotional bank account can grow even more because we don’t have to be constantly making withdrawals. We have rules. This is how we work here.
Deciding = emotional power squared. No one is in charge of that emotional account other than YOU. You own all your power and use it wisely, one decision at a time.
What is one thing you can do now to take your emotional power back today?
