“At some point you just have to let go of what you thought should happen and live in what is happening now.” – I have no idea who said that originally, but I LOVE IT!
When I talk about ACCEPTANCE, this is what I mean.
Whenever you are focusing on trying to change another person, you are wasting time.
YES you can make REQUESTS of that other person and they can say YES or they can say NO and then you can decide –
What you want
If you need to draw any boundaries or say any no’s
What you are willing to be available for
How you want to show up – regardless of their actions
If you are going to own your power or give it away
– Hint – when you are often angry disappointed and overwhelmed it’s likely there are some power leaks happening in your life where other people are in charge of areas that you own but are acting like you don’t.
Do you want a motel marriage which is barely eeking by or do we want 5 star, thriving love?
5 Star Love is NOT perfect love, it’s not, it never gets cloudy and no storms happen.
It’s when storms happen you have a big umbrella, you have a rain coat, YOU CAN HANDLE THE STORM.
Because 5 Star Love is INTENTIONAL, it’s PLANNED, it is a DECISION YOU MAKE and then LIVE INTO that decision through your CHOICES and THOUGHTS and ACTIONS.
How do you cultivate friendship and love and forgiveness and generosity and sexy times?
YOU SHOW UP
YOU CHOOSE
YOU DECIDE
OVER AND OVER AGAIN
EVERY DAY
You cannot do anything productive that leads you to thriving if you are pretending.
You cannot move past pain and hurt and get to healing if you keep reliving yesterday – you can only do that when you live in what is happening NOW.
You cannot break the patterns that got you here without choosing a path, making a plan and figuring out how to stick to it when it gets hard.
Peace is a decision.
Passion can be cultivated.
The first step is to let go of how you thought it should be and really completely accept what is happening now. Then from that place of acceptance you can make powerful choices about what you desire and live into the outcomes of those choices.
Fighting against reality and arguing about how things should have been, takes up so much energy. When you release that energy and apply it to creating the life and marriage you want instead, something that feels like a miracle but is actually your focused, productive attention in action becomes possible.
If you want help with that, I invite you to apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with me here.
We will identify what your biggest issue is, and you will leave the call with at least one concrete actionable takeaway to make your marriage better. We will also discuss my coaching program and see if we are a good fit to work together.
