“Never chase love, affection or attention. If it isn’t given freely by another person, it isn’t worth having.”
I read this on Facebook recently and it LIT ME UP.
There is a difference between being loving because it’s who you want to be in the world and being loving for the purpose of another person’s response.
Be loving
Be generous
Be kind
Because it feels amazing
Because it’s who you are
Because you want to.
Chasing is doing all those things FOR THE REPLY. That is not a good reason.
One of my mentors taught me, The Prize Never Chases.
YOU ARE THE PRIZE
I AM THE PRIZE
We love because that is who we are.
We can love someone who doesn’t show appreciation the same we would. We can DECIDE they are worth loving anyway.
We can accept them 💯 percent.
We can then set boundaries around what is okay not okay in our presence.
They can take it or they can leave it.
If we are not setting boundaries we need to ask ourselves why and decide if those reasons are coming from power and love or from fear and need.
There are no wrong choices.
Only choices with different results.
As a Life Coach, I want you to always SEE all your choices. You ALWAYS have more choices than you think you do.
There is no wrong reason to want to stay married.
It is okay to forgive what society might call unforgivable.
There is no wrong reason to love.
It is okay to love someone that society might call unlovable.
It is okay to choose to do something hard because you want to.
It is okay to LOVE MASSIVELY BEYOND MEASURE.
What I challenge you to stop doing is hanging your happiness on your honey’s reaction.
Check in with your reasons.
Be willing to ask yourself hard questions.
Be willing to go deeper.
Be open to healing the reasons you chase.
The reasons you don’t say no when you want to decline.
The reasons you stopped saying yes to things you really wanted.
Be willing to SEE what is underneath so you can have true satisfaction, true love, true healing, true connection, true forgiveness, Truth at every level of your life.
This is what I teach my clients. This is how I help them.
THE PRIZE NEVER CHASES
YOU ARE THE PRIZE
I AM THE PRIZE
💕 Remember that. 💕
