If you are anything like me, the hardest part of making progress on something you deeply want is asking for help and getting it.
For so long I thought of myself as this independent woman who could do anything ON HER OWN.
I grew up the daughter of a single mother. And the message that if I was going to accomplish anything in life, it was up to me, was STRONG.
I wasn’t good at sports, so I didn’t naturally learn teamwork.
I learned to do things I could control – study hard, get good grades, work harder.
I also learned to overwork, burnout and felt a constant need to PROVE MYSELF – yes it was in CAPS 😉 but that is a story for another day….
Because I had this thought that I had to do things ON MY OWN….it has been hard in several chapters of my life to ask for help.
I am learning. My husband has been one of my greatest teachers.
My hubby offered to help me with my suitcase on our honeymoon, it was HARD for me to say yes.
I thought I had to carry all my bags always. That is how I grew up. What is this thing you call ‘help’?
I had a huge limiting belief (coach speak for a Thought that kept me Stuck) about asking for help, like that meant something was wrong with me. Because sometimes things were heavy and it was hard to carry them.
I didn’t realize that it was just part of being human. We all have virtues and flaws. There are things that are easy for you and hard for me. And vice versa. And nothing is wrong with anyone. We are all just being human together.
My hubby was so loving and kind and took the time to explain that it was EASY for him to carry my bag, it was light to him.
I am so grateful to him for that moment he took to explain that to me. It made me see things in a way I hadn’t before.
My mind was blown. Something that was so hard for me was so easy for him and accepting his help was a game changer.
I am sharing this story because even the clients I work with now who hired a coach to help them, sometimes get stuck not knowing what help they want exactly or how to bring up a topic that feels embarrassing to need help with.
I tell them, I don’t live on a mountain. I get stuck with things too. We are all just being human together.
And I want you to know that too.
When you work with me – conversations that are hard for you, are easy for me to help you plan and prepare for.
Habits and patterns that feel hard to let go of – arguing, disconnecting, resenting instead of loving, are habits and patterns that I help my clients break EVERY DAY.
It feels so heavy for you, but it’s light to me and it’s my pleasure to help you.
Just like it was my hubby’s pleasure to help me on our honeymoon. Getting his help felt AMAZING. My wrist didn’t hurt from pulling my heavy bag and his didn’t either because it was light for him.
What if you heart didn’t hurt from holding the heaviness it has in it right now? What if getting help felt amazing?
Imagine what your marriage could be like 6 months from now with my guidance and coaching.
If you are ready to accept help now, here is the link to book a call with me: https://maggiereyes.com/coaching/
