One of the things that can strengthen your marriage the most is understanding the nuances of ending it. I know. That feels counterintuitive. But here’s what I’ve learned in my years of coaching: We are woefully under-educated on how divorce actually works. And that lack of education becomes one of the barriers to making difficult…

What happens when one partner is actively growing and the other partner… isn’t? Maybe you’ve been reading all the books. Listening to all the podcasts. Going to therapy. Doing ALL the inner work. And your partner? Not so much. Maybe they tried therapy once and didn’t resonate with it. Maybe they think workshops are “not…

I need to tell you about something I have VERY strong feelings about: polarity. If you’ve been out in the internet wilderness hearing about masculine-feminine energy and how you need to lean into your feminine to create spark in your marriage, you might be getting a weird vibe about it. Trust that vibe. A couple…

Oprah just did a whole podcast episode on gray divorce. She brought in experts, had a live audience in New York City, and this made my heart sing. First of all, to see Oprah talking about this is amazing. And I believe the more you understand this phenomenon of gray divorce right now—when you want…

It’s 1 a.m. and I’m sitting with my little notebook. The one with flowers on the front that says “life is beautiful.” I’m feeling really unsettled. Really dysregulated, which is what life coaches and therapists call it when your nervous system is activated. I’m feeling shaky. I’m going through a friend breakup right now. Someone…

In Episode 200 of The Marriage Life Coach Podcast, I sat down with Tia Conway, a licensed therapist and sex educator, to explore the power of pleasure in marriage. And we talked in depth about why pleasure isn’t optional. It’s essential. The Problem: We’ve Been Taught to Postpone Pleasure I grew up with a Catholic…